I had a good visit with one of our PD's today. Part of our conversation was about growing the people we work with to be the best they can be. We wondered about the most effective ways to engage and direct them in the things we do together.
That lead us to this.
How do we feel when we are told to do something? In many cases we feel like saying "I'm not gonna' do it". We rationalize, we debate, we deflect, and the conversation becomes about winning and losing. My way or your way. "I TOLD YOU TO DO IT"!!
Now how do we feel about the same thing when we are asked to do it? I'm not talking about the condescending contrived, calculated ask. Sincerity is important. "I really need your help with this, you'll be perfect for the job". Almost all of us would say...."OK, I'm in".
The choice to ask or tell, will sometimes, make all the difference in the world.
